If affirmations were easy, we'd all be living the dream

​Do you remember the 1991 movie What About Bob? In the opening scene, we meet Bob Wiley, a neurotic mental patient staring into the mirror and chanting, "I feel good, I feel great, I feel wonderful..." And as you watch his morning routine, you'll see he feels anything but good, great, and wonderful.  
Knowing what you want is great, but repeating affirmations and thinking your life is going to change just doesn't work. ​

As you shift your mindset to include affirmations, you may begin to notice, and be grateful, for things that may have gone unnoticed before, and that's a great start. 

But if affirmations were that easy, we'd all be living the dream by now. ​

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In order to make affirmations work, we must change our minds at a core level.

But how?

The conscious mind is easy to change. One moment you want vanilla, the next you want chocolate. It's already made, and it's vanilla? Well then, vanilla is great! Easy. We change our conscious minds all the time.  


For affirmations to work, to change our lives, we have to dive beneath the surface and root out our sub-conscious and unconscious beliefs, and our core patterning. We have to identify what we believe that is not supporting of the life our affirmations would have us believe we want (sub-conscious)- and why we believe it (unconscious). 

The unconscious and subconscious minds are vast, and how they formed must be understood in order for us to bring them to consciousness (where we finally have a choice to change them). So long as something is still unconscious or sub-conscious, there is little, if anything, that can be done about them. 

The unconscious mind is formed from conception to about age 3. The mind is a sponge that takes in everything without discrimination or discretion. Once we understand Me, Mine, and I - ie; that we are separate from our parents - then the subconscious begins to form based on the beliefs and wounding patterns established in the unconscious. 

Our subconscious then influences EVERY SINGLE CONSCIOUS BELIEF we have. So basically, unless you can get to that core unconscious belief and work on reprogramming your core pattern, you will continue to make the same choices and mistakes, even though you feel like you are making different choices. You'll trade the blonde for the brunette, not realizing that the brunette holds the same relationship dynamics for you (because those dynamics and patterns are actually yours).

When we change our mind's programming to align with what we consciously desire, it is then that we become unstoppable. It is then that we become magnets for the very things that were once mysteriously out of our reach. 

When someone says to you, "Oh, just write some affirmations to change your life!" what they are really saying is, "Oh, just radically transform everything about yourself, then it'll be no problem!" 

That's a lot of work. But, hey, I love transformation.