Our children come to us here on Earth from the bliss of beingness. The transition to human, I think, might be a little shocking for even the most prepared soul.
As humans, we each have a profound desire to be seen, to be loved for exactly who we are, and to belong.
Our children are especially vulnerable to these needs. So much so that a baby who doesn't receive enough loving touch will fail to thrive, leading to long term developmental and behavioral problems.
The best way to deal with behavioral problems is to prevent them. Children (as well as adults) act out for a reason. They have a need, be it real or imagined, that is going unfulfilled. They need attention. They need love. They need acceptance and belonging. It is our weakest, most wounded spots that need the most love.
Love is the best preventative medicine.
Get excited to see your kid every time they enter the room you are in. Stop whatever you are doing and greet your child with love. Smile, tell them you are so happy to see them.
Do you remember the time when your baby would stand in their crib in the morning, and as soon as they saw you they would jump up and down and giggle with unrestrained joy and excitement? Be that happy to see them too, even when they are taller than you.
Your job is to teach your children about Love. It is not enough to quietly feel it and assume they know the depth. You must show them and make them aware. They need to know all the way to their bones that they are profoundly cherished.
Love without condition.
Love without limits.
Love without barriers or boundaries in your heart.
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